Why therapy? I'm so glad you asked! Many of us are raised to think that we should be able to handle everything on our own, and that considering an outside opinion is a sign of physical or emotional weakness. And, more often than not, there's the stigma that if you talk to a therapist you must be "crazy" in some way.  Right? Yet, I find in my work that the opposite is generally true. It takes a lot of courage and intelligence to recognize our limits and to call a professional for a discussion.

I think human beings are mostly strong and resilient, even if it doesn't always feel that way. But life puts a lot of demands on us, and for those of us living in large urban areas, it's hard to filter out all of the background noise sometimes. We are so accustomed to it that we don't really realize how stressful it is. 

Tempers get short, the traffic gets worse, the lines are long, and that exacerbates the many frustrating attempts to solve problems at home, and work, and mostly just inside our own skin. Most of us want relief from discomfort whether it's physical or emotional. We want to be understood, and we wish that our relationships would work effectively.

Generally, people call me for therapy after an upsetting event or personal crisis.  An important relationship is in trouble, a divorce or death occurs, a child enters the teen years. A long-standing problem with drug or alcohol addiction may become too much to bear. Self-defeating behavior patterns may stand in the way. Old pain and trauma may resurface. A spouse or other family member may seem "out of control" and a concerned family member may ask for guidance.

At other times, our biology seems to have turned on us, as hormonal, situational or other combinations of biological and situational events bring on feelings of depression or persistent anxious and fearful feelings. I do a lot of work with these type of life events. 

If you have ever wished that you had better tools, or just had someone who would listen, therapy can help. For many it can help relationships work better, teach ways to handle overwhelming feelings, bring relief from addictive behaviors, increase self-esteem, relieve the wounds of old hurts and traumas, and improve coping skills. I find that most people experience a big sense of relief as soon as they reach out and take the first step to talk about it.

If this is you, finding the right therapist is important, so make sure you feel comfortable with the person you choose to be your therapist. Spend a little time looking over their website, consider if their basic life philosophy is a general match for your own, and then reach out to see if there is a chemistry that you can work with. You will usually "know" just by the way you feel after the first contact.  Trust your instincts.

There is no substitute for a therapeutic relationship that honors the values and goals of each individual client. So if you are ready to talk, contact me through my website and we can discuss your needs. And if you know someone who needs help, please share this post. 

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